Anger can be one of the most difficult emotions to manage. And we all have to deal with it. Here are 5 tips to keep you cool in those heated moments.

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We all respond just a little differently when we’re angry. Below are some simple strategies. Which ones work best for you?

Step Away From Anger

It’s easy to get swept up in that strong wave of energy that comes when you get angry. Whatever the situation, “step away” from it. Giving yourself a little distance whether it’s in person, on the phone or via text can make all the difference in the world. Taking just a couple minutes to reground, provides the time you need to create a shift in perspective – not to mention keep you out of the trouble you’ll find by acting on the anger.

Avoid It All Together

Do you ever find that you are putting yourself willingly into an unnecessary scenario that’s bound to blow up in your face? Try avoiding it all together. And by scenario I mean a conversation that you know will go south quickly, or even shooting off a text message that has room for interpretation in a negative way. It might take some strength of will, or swallowing a little pride, but you probably won’t regret it.

Being aware of what triggers you empowers you.

 

Know What Triggers You

What’s your anger history? If you’re not sure, take a few minutes to consider what’s been a problem for you in the past – at work, at home, in relationships, etc. Being aware of what triggers you empowers you. It gives you the ability see it coming and potentially cut it off at the pass.

Come With A Plan

Generally speaking, you know what sets you off. Likely because you’ve witnessed yourself in the past. So make a plan BEFORE it happens. Try talking it out with a trusted friend or colleague. Brainstorm your options and then pick one or two to have in your back-pocket, so that when things get heated you can manage it with grace and ease.

Ask Yourself If It Really Matters

Does what’s upsetting you REALLY matter? If you knew that you had a week or even a month to live, would what’s making you angry deserve your time? I’m guessing that it wouldn’t. And while not all things that make us angry should be brushed aside, make sure that what does make you angry is worth it.

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